| Location | Widnes |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Premature Birth |
| Date of Birth | 24/03/2008 |
| Date of Death | 24/03/2008 |
| Visitors | 6,787 since 27/04/2008 |
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Evan Thomas Whittaker
Born and passed away on 24th march 2008 aged 18 1/2 hours.
Beautiful son of Paula & Steven Whittaker.
Baby Evan died as a result of complications during pregnancy. The membranes surrounding him ruptured
at only 18 weeks into the pregnancy. The doctors said he would be born within 72 hours, and even if
he wasn't born in that time he would almost certainly catch an infection which could kill mum and
baby.If this didn't happen and he lived they said he would not continue to grow properly,his lungs
wouldn't grow and he would have deformities of his limbs due to not having enough fluid to move
around in. We were sent home to wait for him to die.
However what the Dr's didn't know was that Evan was a little fighter who didn't do as he was told!
Evan wasn't born at 18 weeks, he did continue to grow, he never caught an infection, and he moved
about all the time!
Evan continued to thrive inside his mum until he was born prematurely at 29weeks on Easter Monday
weighing 2lb 9oz. He was a beautiful,perfect baby,including his limbs, and continued to fight all
day. Unfortunately though his little lungs were underdeveloped due to the loss of fluid so early
on,and after 18 1/2 hours he could fight no more. Evan went peacefully to sleep in his mummy and
daddy's arms.
Although we are heartbroken and miss our little man like mad, we are so proud of the way he
continued to fight and always will be. We are glad we had the chance to cuddle and kiss Evan, and
tell him how much we loved him-something we couldn't have done if he hadn't fought so hard in trying
to prove the Dr's wrong.
God bless sweet pea,love & miss you forever, love mummy and daddy x x x x x
Also love to our little angel baby, who grew wings on 8th March 2007 at 8weeks gestation,&our
tiniest angel, lost september 2008 at 4 1/2 weeks gestation. Love you both angels,play nicely with
your brother Evan, we will all meet again one day x x x x
Our letter to Evan from mummy & daddy.
Darling Evan, it is difficult to know where to begin talking about you, so I guess a good place to
start is at the very beginning of your life.
You were the baby your mummy and daddy desperately wanted, and after months of fertility treatment,
we finally found out we were expecting you on a beautiful Saturday morning in September. We really
couldn’t believe we were lucky enough to be having you, infact mummy sent daddy out to buy five
more tests just to make sure it was true!
But true it was, and we were so happy, although those first few weeks of your life weren’t easy
and you gave us quite a few scares. We prayed every day that you would carry on growing, and sure
enough every week when we would see you on scan you kept on getting bigger. It made us so happy to
see you waving at us, and we loved you so much from the minute we knew you were growing inside
mummy.
As you got bigger, it was obvious you had your own little personality already-lets just say you were
very determined! You liked to stay up late, and get up late too- and so help anyone who disturbed
your sleep!! You made it quite clear you didn’t like to be woken up early by the neighbours dogs,
or the crying babies in the hospital. This was obvious by the force of your kicks- you were clearly
unhappy with the noise! You also let the midwives and the doctors know that you didn’t like to be
poked and prodded by kicking them hard, and constantly hiding from them when they tried to listen to
your heartbeat on the monitors. You even earned yourself the nickname ‘posh spice’ in the
hospital because of this! You seemed to like chocolate, cheesy wotsits and carrot cake, but you
weren’t so keen on rhubarb or red meat- mummy learned about this very quickly! You also liked to
kick your little feet to Kylie Minogue! Despite your short stay on earth with us, we feel we knew
you so well already.
The name Evan means ‘young warrior’ in Celtic, and Evan that is so true of you. You battled on
inside your mummy for months and you continued to defy the odds of the doctors who first treated
you. They said you wouldn’t make it past 18 weeks- you hung on until 29 weeks. They said you
wouldn’t grow properly- you were the perfect size for your age.
They said you wouldn’t be able to move around much inside your mummy, especially after the steroid
injections- you were never still, particularly after the steroids! Infact you moved around so much
you earned yourself another nickname amongst your family- Dora the explorer!
It should be pointed out here that the doctors also said you were a girl-again you proved them
wrong!
You continued to battle on, and your determination meant that you got to live outside of mummy for
18 ½ hours when you decided it was time to come out on Easter Monday. The doctors were surprised by
you again- you put up such a fight and were so strong considering the size of your tiny lungs and
your age. Even then you still managed to fight with the doctors and nurses, pulling at your
breathing tubes.
You continued to fight all the odds for 18 ½ hours Evan, but sadly your little body was just too
small and too tired from all the fighting you had had to do for the past 29 weeks. You managed to
hang on until mummy was well enough from her operation to come and be with you and daddy, and then
you went peacefully to sleep in our arms.
Although our hearts are broken Evan, and we cannot understand why you weren’t allowed to stay with
us, we want you to know that we are so, so proud of you beautiful boy. We wish you could have stayed
with us for a lot longer, but we will always be grateful for the precious time we had with you,
before and after your birth. Having you for that short time was worth all of the heartache and
stress- you made us a mummy and daddy, and we will always be proud of the way that you fought so
hard.
The name Evan also means ‘God’s precious gift’, and you were the most beautiful, precious gift
we have ever known. We will love you and miss you forever, you will always be in our hearts and we
will never forget you.
In the words of the song that mummy and daddy would always sing to you from the moment we knew you
existed Evan, you are our sunshine, our only sunshine, you make us happy when skies are grey, and
you’ll never know just how much we love you. Sleep tight our precious angel with your big brother
or sister, until we all meet again you will be our bright sunshine in the sky.
Love you always, mummy and daddy x x x x
Happy Birthday!
To my beautiful nephew Evan,happy first birthday little one.It's hard to believe a year has gone by already.We miss you so much,but today for you is about fun.Hope you have a big party in the clouds with all your angel friends,baby Adam and your brother(s)/sister(s).I've just come back from your garden and mummy & daddy have made it so pretty with lots of flowers,toys and balloons.I've sent them a poem to tell them all about birthday parties in heaven.Enjoy your special day and don't forget to peep down to see your candles.Big kisses and cuddles to you from all of us.Love you,from auntie Karen xxxxxxxxxxxx.
HappyBirthday Angel!!x
Hello There Little Man,
Was Just Passing By And Saw It Was Youur Birthday Today!!
My Thoughts ARe With Youur Mummy [&&] Daddy.
Keep Shining Brightly Little One x
For Evan's 1st Birthday
Hello beautiful, it's your 1st birthday today, wish we could hold you and cuddle you and tell you how much we love you on your special day. Instead we have to write our tribute and visit your special garden.
We will come and bring you a new teddy and giraffe, some birthday flowers and your very own 1st birthday candle which is a little blue elephant, we are sure you will like him.
We cannot believe it's been a year already, you are loved and thought of each and every day and always will be.
See you later on today, untill then have fun with all of your angel friends.
Hope the sun shines a little today for you, Mummy and Daddy,keep loving them Evan, they need you more than ever.
BIG,BIG HUGS SPECIAL BOY.
Uncle Ste, Auntie Gill, Cousin's Laura and Jack.
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For you Evan from mummy........
It’s hard to be your mummy,
When you’re so far away.
When I cant kiss or hold you
And see you every day.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When I can’t have you near by,
And the only way I can talk to you
Is to look up to the sky.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When I can’t smell or touch your skin.
When the love I want to give to you
Has to stay all trapped within.
It’s so hard to be your mummy
When I wont get to see you grow.
When I wont get to love & care for you,
To teach you all I know.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When they just wont let me say
All the things I need to say about you-
I keep your memory alive this way.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When people hold their breath if I say your name.
When I’m forced to change the subject,
To join in their stupid game.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When people say I should move on.
They think I should forget you
Just because you are now gone.
It’s hard to be your mummy
When people just don’t understand,
That I am still your mummy
Even though you’re not around.
It’s so hard to be your mummy
When they talk like you can be replaced.
They say ‘will you have another?’
Like a new baby could take your place.
It’s so hard to be your mummy
When it means living in constant pain.
And the people all around me
Can’t understand I’ll never be the same.
Yes it is hard to be your mummy,
All of this is true.
But I wouldn’t change it for the world,
Being a mummy to you!
It may be hard to be your mummy
When we are forced to be apart,
But we are always together in this way-
Joined by our souls & hearts.
Oh it’s so hard to be your mummy,
I cannot tell a lie.
But I will love you & be proud of you
Until the day I die.
Yes it is hard to be your mummy
But it is so worth all the pain.
And I’ll treasure your precious memory
Until we are together again.
X X X X X X X X X X
Love & miss you all the world sweetpea x x
For Ste, Paula, Evan and our two other beautiful Angels.
DEATH LEAVES A HEARTACHE,
THAT NO ONE CAN HEAL....
LOVE LEAVES A MEMORY,
THAT NO ONE CAN STEAL....
It was so nice spending last night in your company,
and although we all enjoyed it, Ste and I could tell you were both hurting and that at times both of your hearts were just not in it and was filled with thoughts of Evan and both of your lost babies.
We know March is an incredibly difficult month for you both and always will be. But to be brave and 'carry on' as you both constantly try and do is nothing short of a miracle to us both, we know you are in great pain when you do this and know that at times you have wanted to 'give up'especially at this time. I know when you both text and chat to Ste and I we wish we could somehow heal your pain and bring a much deserved miracle to both your lives.
You both know what I offered to do and would still do if it were possible, just want you both to know that we are and always will be hoping and praying for you both and that this year you will get what you deserve, the opportunity to bring a new member to your family to keep and cuddle and hold and love. We know though that whatever happens our love and thoughts will keep on growing for your already three beutiful children, our angel nephew Evan and our two
angel nephew/niece's. They are around us all of the time, in our conversations, in our pictures and will always be a part of our lives.
We find it hard to believe it's been almost a year since we lost Evan, he will be with us in our thoughts even more than usual over the coming weeks and we have already planned our time with him on his 1st birthday, which we will do after school.
We love you both, Paula and Ste.
For Evan x
You never said you were leaving
you never said goodbye.
You were gone before we knew it
only God knows why.
A million times we've needed you
a million times we've cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.
In life we loved you dearly
in death we love you still.
In our heart's you hold a place
no one could ever fill.
It broke our heart's to lose you
but you did'nt go alone
For part of the four of us went with you
the day God took you home.
You will forever be all around us.
Laura and Jack are wrapping their arms around you and loving you lots, as always.
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Thank you sweet pea x
"In order to experience anything at all, the exact opposite of it must appear.You could not know Warm without Cold, Up without Down, Fast without Slow. You could not know Left without Right, Here without There, Now without Then."
If i hadn't lost you i would not know what true heartbreak was. But if i hadn't had you in the 1st place i wouldn't know what it was to love someone so much. Love you always little man, see you over the rainbow one day x x x
For a sweet angel
We think about you always,
we talk about you still,
you have never been forgotten,
and you never will.
We hold you close within our hearts,
and there you will remain,
to walk with us throughout our lives
until we meet again.
- Author Unknown -
xxxxxxx
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When tomorrow starts without me
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today
While thinking of the many things
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you.
And each time that you think of me
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And took me by the hand.
Thank you for all your support through 2008.
Thinking of you
Love Laura
happy new year.
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