| Location | Widnes |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Premature Birth |
| Date of Birth | 24/03/2008 |
| Date of Death | 24/03/2008 |
| Visitors | 6,787 since 27/04/2008 |
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Evan Thomas Whittaker
Born and passed away on 24th march 2008 aged 18 1/2 hours.
Beautiful son of Paula & Steven Whittaker.
Baby Evan died as a result of complications during pregnancy. The membranes surrounding him ruptured
at only 18 weeks into the pregnancy. The doctors said he would be born within 72 hours, and even if
he wasn't born in that time he would almost certainly catch an infection which could kill mum and
baby.If this didn't happen and he lived they said he would not continue to grow properly,his lungs
wouldn't grow and he would have deformities of his limbs due to not having enough fluid to move
around in. We were sent home to wait for him to die.
However what the Dr's didn't know was that Evan was a little fighter who didn't do as he was told!
Evan wasn't born at 18 weeks, he did continue to grow, he never caught an infection, and he moved
about all the time!
Evan continued to thrive inside his mum until he was born prematurely at 29weeks on Easter Monday
weighing 2lb 9oz. He was a beautiful,perfect baby,including his limbs, and continued to fight all
day. Unfortunately though his little lungs were underdeveloped due to the loss of fluid so early
on,and after 18 1/2 hours he could fight no more. Evan went peacefully to sleep in his mummy and
daddy's arms.
Although we are heartbroken and miss our little man like mad, we are so proud of the way he
continued to fight and always will be. We are glad we had the chance to cuddle and kiss Evan, and
tell him how much we loved him-something we couldn't have done if he hadn't fought so hard in trying
to prove the Dr's wrong.
God bless sweet pea,love & miss you forever, love mummy and daddy x x x x x
Also love to our little angel baby, who grew wings on 8th March 2007 at 8weeks gestation,&our
tiniest angel, lost september 2008 at 4 1/2 weeks gestation. Love you both angels,play nicely with
your brother Evan, we will all meet again one day x x x x
Our letter to Evan from mummy & daddy.
Darling Evan, it is difficult to know where to begin talking about you, so I guess a good place to
start is at the very beginning of your life.
You were the baby your mummy and daddy desperately wanted, and after months of fertility treatment,
we finally found out we were expecting you on a beautiful Saturday morning in September. We really
couldn’t believe we were lucky enough to be having you, infact mummy sent daddy out to buy five
more tests just to make sure it was true!
But true it was, and we were so happy, although those first few weeks of your life weren’t easy
and you gave us quite a few scares. We prayed every day that you would carry on growing, and sure
enough every week when we would see you on scan you kept on getting bigger. It made us so happy to
see you waving at us, and we loved you so much from the minute we knew you were growing inside
mummy.
As you got bigger, it was obvious you had your own little personality already-lets just say you were
very determined! You liked to stay up late, and get up late too- and so help anyone who disturbed
your sleep!! You made it quite clear you didn’t like to be woken up early by the neighbours dogs,
or the crying babies in the hospital. This was obvious by the force of your kicks- you were clearly
unhappy with the noise! You also let the midwives and the doctors know that you didn’t like to be
poked and prodded by kicking them hard, and constantly hiding from them when they tried to listen to
your heartbeat on the monitors. You even earned yourself the nickname ‘posh spice’ in the
hospital because of this! You seemed to like chocolate, cheesy wotsits and carrot cake, but you
weren’t so keen on rhubarb or red meat- mummy learned about this very quickly! You also liked to
kick your little feet to Kylie Minogue! Despite your short stay on earth with us, we feel we knew
you so well already.
The name Evan means ‘young warrior’ in Celtic, and Evan that is so true of you. You battled on
inside your mummy for months and you continued to defy the odds of the doctors who first treated
you. They said you wouldn’t make it past 18 weeks- you hung on until 29 weeks. They said you
wouldn’t grow properly- you were the perfect size for your age.
They said you wouldn’t be able to move around much inside your mummy, especially after the steroid
injections- you were never still, particularly after the steroids! Infact you moved around so much
you earned yourself another nickname amongst your family- Dora the explorer!
It should be pointed out here that the doctors also said you were a girl-again you proved them
wrong!
You continued to battle on, and your determination meant that you got to live outside of mummy for
18 ½ hours when you decided it was time to come out on Easter Monday. The doctors were surprised by
you again- you put up such a fight and were so strong considering the size of your tiny lungs and
your age. Even then you still managed to fight with the doctors and nurses, pulling at your
breathing tubes.
You continued to fight all the odds for 18 ½ hours Evan, but sadly your little body was just too
small and too tired from all the fighting you had had to do for the past 29 weeks. You managed to
hang on until mummy was well enough from her operation to come and be with you and daddy, and then
you went peacefully to sleep in our arms.
Although our hearts are broken Evan, and we cannot understand why you weren’t allowed to stay with
us, we want you to know that we are so, so proud of you beautiful boy. We wish you could have stayed
with us for a lot longer, but we will always be grateful for the precious time we had with you,
before and after your birth. Having you for that short time was worth all of the heartache and
stress- you made us a mummy and daddy, and we will always be proud of the way that you fought so
hard.
The name Evan also means ‘God’s precious gift’, and you were the most beautiful, precious gift
we have ever known. We will love you and miss you forever, you will always be in our hearts and we
will never forget you.
In the words of the song that mummy and daddy would always sing to you from the moment we knew you
existed Evan, you are our sunshine, our only sunshine, you make us happy when skies are grey, and
you’ll never know just how much we love you. Sleep tight our precious angel with your big brother
or sister, until we all meet again you will be our bright sunshine in the sky.
Love you always, mummy and daddy x x x x
First Christmas
Baby Evan,
We wish with all our hearts you were here to spend Christmas with your Mummy and Daddy. Tonight as we got Katie and Lucie ready for bed you and your Mummy and Daddy were never far from my thoughts. I wish so much that their Christmas could be different X
I hope you liked the little Christmas tree I brought you. I guess you did cos as I was trying to find the memorial plaque for mummy and daddy's other angel, I found a tiny white feather. I hope you don't mind that I went back and put it on your tree. It just seemed right. xxx
Today I found a big white feather on MY Christmas tree. Lucie had apparently placed it there, but it made me think of you again! It made me smile cos I thought maybe you'd sent it and made it a big one so I would leave it there- well I have!!
Tomorrow I will light a candle for you,in my house,
and for all the others missing from our family this Christmas.
Huge hugs, kisses and lots of love to you little man on this your very first Christmas. Love you always,
Sue, Chris, Katie and Lucie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Evan, you are 9 months old today. You should be rolling around the floor, pulling the tree to bits & opening everyones presents that are underneath it. You should be having your bath tonight, getting dressed your new p.j's & going to bed early, leaving a mince pie, carrots & milk for 'father chritmas' (daddy!) , & waking up to a house full of presents & family for a big family christmas. Instead we will take your stocking to the cemetry tonight, & bring your presents tomorrow, then take our donation to the NICU in memory of you, & come back & lock the door & spend the day alone blocking out the world cos it's too painful.
We really wish you were here sweet pea, but even though mummy & daddy are sad you are gone, we are so happy we had you here at all-you are the best thing we ever had in our lives & the most important person. I hope you have a lovely christmas in heaven & that you are watching over us always, seeing how much we love & miss you forever. Lots of christmas kisses little man, have so much fun at christmas & make sure you go to bed early tonight so that father christmas can leave you a present!! Love you beautiful, always, mummy & daddy x x x x x
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Thank you for all your support.. Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hello sweet pea, mummy & daddy are home now from NY, we had a lovely time but would rather we couldn't have gone & that we could have spent my birthday at home with you.
Today we are going out to buy a christmas tree just for you baby, we are going to put it in the window & decorate it with all your precious angel christmas gifts. Mummy usually has the tree up by now but i am not looking forward to christmas this year because i am missing you too much. It is too sad when i open cards & your name is missing from them. I always knew christmas would be different this year once you were in my life, but i hoped it would be because the 3 of us would have a lovely family christmas together that would be filled with happiness, & not because we would be so sad because we are missing you. Christmas day last year was the 1st time i felt you move in my tummy-christmas will never be the same again without you, no day will ever be perfect again now you are gone, we will just always make the best but it will never be truly perfect.
I hope you can see your tree from heaven & that you love the sparkly lights Evan-you would have been so aware of all the decorations & that it was a special time of year if you were still here, you will be 9 months old on christmas eve. I miss you every day, even though i know you are always with me, i just wish i could have one more cuddle & kiss from you, although that will never be enough either. I wish with all my heart you could be here with us for christmas and every other day, but i know my dreams can never come true anymore. I love you sweetie x x x
Hey baby, hope you are all wrapped up warm & snuggly in this icy weather. Mummy loves & misses you more every day. It is my birthday next week, so me & daddy are going out with all our family tonight for a christmas dinner, for your nanny's birthday too. But i don't really feel like celebrating without you here little man, so please come with mummy & daddy & hold our hands so that we can have a nice night out with all your family who miss you so much too. When we get back from our holiday we are going to come to your garden & bring you some nice fresh christmas flowers, & some nice christmas things for you to play with, plus a little present from New York!!
Love you my little sweetpea, the whole wide world! x x x
Sweet Evan x
Hello beautiful Evan, i wanted to come and send a million kisses your way, you are a very special boy, and i know you are close by your mummy x hold her hand and be close with mummy and daddy in New York x
Love Theresa xxx
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
You were a gift sent straight from Heaven.
Given to us from God above.
We didn't know how much you would teach us
About the meaning of true love...
For true love sometimes means letting go
Of someone precious and dear.
That is what we were forced to do...
Although we wanted to keep you here!!!
However, this is quite a selfish wish.
One we know we should ignore...
But, we truly do believe
That God must have needed you more...
Perhaps to be an Angel now,
Full of wisdom and love...
Watching over those of us who love you
From the shining stars above.
We miss you more than you can know.
You will never be replaced...
In our hearts and memories forever,
Will be your sweet and innocent sleeping face.
Each time we see your picture
You seem to smile and say,
“Don’t cry, I’m in God’s hands,
We’ll meet again someday!”
“The Best”
God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around you
And He whispered “Come to Me”
With tearful eyes we watched you.
We watched you fade away.
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard-working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He chose to take the best.
It’s lonesome here without you
We miss you more each day.
Life doesn’t seem the same
Since you have gone away.
When days are sad and lonely
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper
“Cheer Up and Carry On”
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
For Beautiful Angel Evan
Hello Little Angel Evan,
I am SarahKate and I am a new and lucky friend of your very brave Mummy. I just wanted to leave you a wee message and send you my love, I hope you are having fun up in the clouds with my four angel babies and Ashleigh and Morgan too, you are so precious to your Mummy and Daddy, stay close to them sweetheart, they need you to give them strength each day as they miss you so much. Keep on visiting them Evan, and playing your little tricks, it helps them to know you are near them always. I really hope you enjoy the trip to New York too sweetheart, you make sure your Mummy and Daddy have lots of fun!
Lots of love and floaty kisses angel xxxxxxxx
Hey little man, I just got a text off your mummy. I'm so glad you like the little blue car we brought for you. Big hugs and kisses. I'm sure you know you're still in my thoughts every single day! xx
Love always Sue x
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