| Location | Widnes |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Premature Birth |
| Date of Birth | 24/03/2008 |
| Date of Death | 24/03/2008 |
| Visitors | 6,786 since 27/04/2008 |
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Evan Thomas Whittaker
Born and passed away on 24th march 2008 aged 18 1/2 hours.
Beautiful son of Paula & Steven Whittaker.
Baby Evan died as a result of complications during pregnancy. The membranes surrounding him ruptured
at only 18 weeks into the pregnancy. The doctors said he would be born within 72 hours, and even if
he wasn't born in that time he would almost certainly catch an infection which could kill mum and
baby.If this didn't happen and he lived they said he would not continue to grow properly,his lungs
wouldn't grow and he would have deformities of his limbs due to not having enough fluid to move
around in. We were sent home to wait for him to die.
However what the Dr's didn't know was that Evan was a little fighter who didn't do as he was told!
Evan wasn't born at 18 weeks, he did continue to grow, he never caught an infection, and he moved
about all the time!
Evan continued to thrive inside his mum until he was born prematurely at 29weeks on Easter Monday
weighing 2lb 9oz. He was a beautiful,perfect baby,including his limbs, and continued to fight all
day. Unfortunately though his little lungs were underdeveloped due to the loss of fluid so early
on,and after 18 1/2 hours he could fight no more. Evan went peacefully to sleep in his mummy and
daddy's arms.
Although we are heartbroken and miss our little man like mad, we are so proud of the way he
continued to fight and always will be. We are glad we had the chance to cuddle and kiss Evan, and
tell him how much we loved him-something we couldn't have done if he hadn't fought so hard in trying
to prove the Dr's wrong.
God bless sweet pea,love & miss you forever, love mummy and daddy x x x x x
Also love to our little angel baby, who grew wings on 8th March 2007 at 8weeks gestation,&our
tiniest angel, lost september 2008 at 4 1/2 weeks gestation. Love you both angels,play nicely with
your brother Evan, we will all meet again one day x x x x
Our letter to Evan from mummy & daddy.
Darling Evan, it is difficult to know where to begin talking about you, so I guess a good place to
start is at the very beginning of your life.
You were the baby your mummy and daddy desperately wanted, and after months of fertility treatment,
we finally found out we were expecting you on a beautiful Saturday morning in September. We really
couldn’t believe we were lucky enough to be having you, infact mummy sent daddy out to buy five
more tests just to make sure it was true!
But true it was, and we were so happy, although those first few weeks of your life weren’t easy
and you gave us quite a few scares. We prayed every day that you would carry on growing, and sure
enough every week when we would see you on scan you kept on getting bigger. It made us so happy to
see you waving at us, and we loved you so much from the minute we knew you were growing inside
mummy.
As you got bigger, it was obvious you had your own little personality already-lets just say you were
very determined! You liked to stay up late, and get up late too- and so help anyone who disturbed
your sleep!! You made it quite clear you didn’t like to be woken up early by the neighbours dogs,
or the crying babies in the hospital. This was obvious by the force of your kicks- you were clearly
unhappy with the noise! You also let the midwives and the doctors know that you didn’t like to be
poked and prodded by kicking them hard, and constantly hiding from them when they tried to listen to
your heartbeat on the monitors. You even earned yourself the nickname ‘posh spice’ in the
hospital because of this! You seemed to like chocolate, cheesy wotsits and carrot cake, but you
weren’t so keen on rhubarb or red meat- mummy learned about this very quickly! You also liked to
kick your little feet to Kylie Minogue! Despite your short stay on earth with us, we feel we knew
you so well already.
The name Evan means ‘young warrior’ in Celtic, and Evan that is so true of you. You battled on
inside your mummy for months and you continued to defy the odds of the doctors who first treated
you. They said you wouldn’t make it past 18 weeks- you hung on until 29 weeks. They said you
wouldn’t grow properly- you were the perfect size for your age.
They said you wouldn’t be able to move around much inside your mummy, especially after the steroid
injections- you were never still, particularly after the steroids! Infact you moved around so much
you earned yourself another nickname amongst your family- Dora the explorer!
It should be pointed out here that the doctors also said you were a girl-again you proved them
wrong!
You continued to battle on, and your determination meant that you got to live outside of mummy for
18 ½ hours when you decided it was time to come out on Easter Monday. The doctors were surprised by
you again- you put up such a fight and were so strong considering the size of your tiny lungs and
your age. Even then you still managed to fight with the doctors and nurses, pulling at your
breathing tubes.
You continued to fight all the odds for 18 ½ hours Evan, but sadly your little body was just too
small and too tired from all the fighting you had had to do for the past 29 weeks. You managed to
hang on until mummy was well enough from her operation to come and be with you and daddy, and then
you went peacefully to sleep in our arms.
Although our hearts are broken Evan, and we cannot understand why you weren’t allowed to stay with
us, we want you to know that we are so, so proud of you beautiful boy. We wish you could have stayed
with us for a lot longer, but we will always be grateful for the precious time we had with you,
before and after your birth. Having you for that short time was worth all of the heartache and
stress- you made us a mummy and daddy, and we will always be proud of the way that you fought so
hard.
The name Evan also means ‘God’s precious gift’, and you were the most beautiful, precious gift
we have ever known. We will love you and miss you forever, you will always be in our hearts and we
will never forget you.
In the words of the song that mummy and daddy would always sing to you from the moment we knew you
existed Evan, you are our sunshine, our only sunshine, you make us happy when skies are grey, and
you’ll never know just how much we love you. Sleep tight our precious angel with your big brother
or sister, until we all meet again you will be our bright sunshine in the sky.
Love you always, mummy and daddy x x x x
To a beautiful Angel Boy
You've Just walked on ahead of me
And I've got to understand
You must release the ones you love
And let go of their hand
I try to cope the best I can
But i'm missing you so much
If I could only see you
And once more feel your touch
Yes, you've just walked on ahead of me
Don't worry i'll be fine
But now and then i swear I feel
Your hand slip into mine
Message for Baby Evan
·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:
Twinkle, twinkle little star
now we know just where you are.
Sitting in heaven up above
we send you all our love.
Love you more then words can say
Love you more and more each day.
Although you're not here today
you're never more then a thought away.
·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:· ·:*:
To my beautiful baby boy Evan from mummy x x x
Evan,the morning you were born & i saw you for the first time,my heart swelled to a million times it's normal size with the pride& happiness you brought me. You were so beautiful! Then that night when you grew your wings & left me,my heart shattered into a million pieces with the pain. They say time will heal Evan,but the pieces of my heart will never be put back together. Because when you went to heaven,my gorgeous little man, you took thousands of pieces of my broken heart with you. Time will never stop the hurt i feel from missing you or make me forget you,& you will be forever in my (broken) heart. Love you more than words can say sweetpea,mummy x x x x
what a beautiful little boy,so sorry for your loss,you must have been very proud parents to have him xxxxx
Special Boy
A precious baby boy taken too soon , Evan what a beautiful little boy. Please can you stay close to your mummy and let her know you are safe, i know how much she is hurting, and how you don't want to see her cry. Take hold of her hand x
I hope that you are with My angel Ashleigh and you are both safe together, you are both far too special for this world.
Evan a presious boy never to be forgotten and a footprint on many hearts.
wonderful Evan.
you brought so much happiness to your mummy and daddy and all your family and friends. you were a ray of sunshine, now you are the brightest star in the sky. Thinking of you today and always. xxx
For my Daddy
Oh, Dearest Daddy...
What can I say today???
To help mend your broken heart...
On this Fathers day???
You know I would be there with you...
If only there was a way...
Although I am in Heaven now...
Its in your heart I will always stay.
Just like you where always there for me..
I will always be there for you..
Just look for a sign and you will see me..
In each sunrise...and each sunset too.
My love for you, daddy
will always be true...
you are the best daddy in the world..
and that includes the Heavens too!
So, I'm sending all my love
to you from Heaven today....
and remember I will be with you...
Just look for me on this Fathers day...
I love you daddy!
From your angel in Heaven above
Much love to you Evan on Fathers day, I hope you are loving those fluffy clouds up there! I am going to tell Mummy and Daddy about a website that may help them, it is where other Mummys and Daddys can chat together via a forum, they can talk about being away from their angels and how to cope. It will help them with their feelings, because they miss you soooo much. The website is called the Child Bereavement Charity and lots of us go on there to support eachover. Anyway must not rabbit on! look after Mummy and Daddy and remember, live is not forever but love is! Have a wonderful day. Kylie x
hello to Evan&Daddy Ste
Thinking of you both tomorrow on what should have been a very special day for you both, our heart goes out to you both and to Mummy too x
EACH SUNRISE REMINDS US THAT MIRACLES HAPPEN...and although Evan was only with you both for a little while, he was and always will be your MIRACLE and will be forever with you in your thoughts and in your HEART x
Love always to the three of you, Auntie Gill, Uncle Ste, Cousin Laura and Cousin Jack xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Love Evan x
Paula and Ste, Just came across these and they seemed so appropriate! Baby Evan is definately in all our hearts, and with us every day xx
We had so little time to share,
Too soon, I had to leave.
I know how much you love me,
I know how much you grieve.
I know how sharp your pain is,
I feel the aching in your hearts.
My life so quickly ended
Before it barely had a start.
Don't you fret about me Mummy
I'm with all of God's most blessed
I'd have loved to stay there with you
but Heavenly Father knows what's best.
I remember how Daddy held me,
And kissed my face and hands,
He cuddled me so gently;
But, God had other plans.
I was your perfect angel,
From God you knew I came,
Suddenly he called me home again,
And now God holds my hand.
Thank you Mummy and Daddy for making me,
You made me out of love,
I can't wait for the day I see you again
So you can see what I've become.
Thank you for the name you gave me,
I'm thankful for all you've done.
I'll be waiting here for you
in heaven up above.
So smile when you think of me
and wipe away all of your tears
I’m cuddled now in heaven
By our family members here.
I'm an angel here in heaven,
The Lord's here by my side,
He wants me to let you know
He's sorry he made you cry.
He has a plan for me up here,
And a plan for you here too,
Someday we'll be together again,
And this I know is true.
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Mummy and Daddy, please don't mourn for me;
I'm still here, though you don't see.
I'm right by your side, each night and day
and within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I'm always near.
I'm everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free, but I'll never depart
as long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I'll never wander out of your sight
I'm the brightest star on a summer night.
I'll never be beyond your reach,
I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach.
I'm the colorful leaves when autumn comes round,
And the pure white snow that blankets the ground.
I'm the beautiful lillies of which you're so fond
The clear cool water in a fishing pond.
I'm the first apple blossom you'll see in the spring;
the first warm raindrop that April will bring.
I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,
and you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking there's no one to love you,
you can talk to me through the Lord above you.
I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,
and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.
I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
and the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.
I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.
Just look for me, Mummy and Daddy, I'm everyplace.
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